Such small things are able to make such huge differences in our lives. I found this out when I bought my first vibrator. This female toy has not only been responsible for me discovering the pleasure and importance of orgasm, it has also helped many other women too.

Sex and marriage work hand in hand and gone are the days when women are expected to lie flat on their backs and not take any pleasure in this side of the marriage. This sort of thing can actually make or break a relationship.

It is not only about the sex act, it is about being able to achieve a state of total intimacy and this takes a good deal of trust.

I came across female toys completely by accident when a work colleague at another company sent me and invitation by email to an adult party plan party she was planning. Not having any idea what this was about, I agreed to attend.

When I arrived there was such a buzz in the room, the excitement was palpable and I asked Bev, what is this all about? When she told me I nearly dropped dead with fright, but she is a nice Christian girls so I was reassured. She told me that this would be great fun and I would learn a lot.

After a drink or two I began to relax – everyone was having such a good time.

When the adult party play lady arrived, we crowded around her – fascinated. Her talk was amusing, down to earth, original and educational. I learned from her that the addition of female toys to her marriage had saved it from dying a lingering death and this was good news.

She said that experimentation with female toys had saved her marriage and although mine wasn’t in trouble yet, I knew things could change quickly. I didn’t get that turned on sexually by my husband and this could be a problem.

She recommended that I purchase a bullet vibrator to start off with, reckoning that these items are the best way to introduce female toys into a relationship. She explained that they do not threaten the man as being a penis replacement and they certainly get the job done, so I ordered a powerful two bullet, waterproof unit and a big bottle of cherry motion lotion as well as a French maids outfit.

When I told my hubby about everything I had seen and heard at the Adult Party Plan party, as well as what I had ordered, he was as excited as me for the package to arrive. It did and we had a lot of fun experimenting with my new female toys. I am not going to go into detail, but I now have quite a collection of role play outfits, female toys and other stuff, and we now realize that sex is the way grown ups play.