It is strange that so small a thing can make such a difference to your life as I was to find that my marriage was not complete until I got my first vibrator. Female toys can make a huge improvement to your sex life, and once I discovered the orgasm, I realized just how important this was.

sex and marriage work hand in hand and gone are the days when women are expected to lie flat on their backs and not take any pleasure in this side of the marriage. This sort of thing can actually make or break a relationship.

Complete intimacy means that sex and trust also play a role. If you can trust a man enough to have good sex with him, then you can trust him for anything.

My introduction to female toys came about by accident - I received and invitation to an adult party plan party. This was sent by a work colleague from a partner company and as we had a good working relationship, this was a good opportunity for us to get to know each other better.

When I arrived at her home that Saturday, a lot of ladies had arrived before me and the atmosphere was thick with excitement. I still didn’t know what it was all about so Bev explained in and to be frank I was quite nervous.

After a drink or two I began to relax - everyone was having such a good time.

We were fascinated as the adult party plan lady unpacked all her female toys, potions, lotions, underwear, role play outfits and novelties, and crowded around her like excited children around a magician. Her talk was funny, empathetic, inspiring and educational and I was suitably impressed enough to make a purchase.

My husband and I had spoken about it, but both being a bit ignorant about the importance of mutual fulfillment, had not really allowed it to bug us or pursue it any further.

The bullet vibrator was her suggestion, she said it wouldn’t be intimidating to either my husband or my self and I purchased a waterproof model with two bullets, a French maids outfit for fun and some cherry flavored motion lotion.

When I shared all this information with my husband, he was very open and also really excited for my package to arrive. This was the first of many similar brown paper packages we have opened together and he sometimes say why don’t you order this or that, so I now have quite a collection. We play together now and sometimes it’s a game of Monopoly, but sometimes its also the police woman locking the bad boy up in handcuffs with no get out of jail free card we love Adult Party Plan.